Trip to Penang

Top 10 - What to See and Do

Soak in the sun at one of the many beaches, explore the quaint nooks and crannies of George Town, feast on delicacies from hawker street stalls, shop at the many quaint night markets and much more. Offering the best of Asia, Penang 's sights and sounds reflect the colourful heritage of her many races and the pride of her people. Be it lush tropical gardens or ornately designed temples and unique heritage buildings, Penang will give you a glimpse into a world where nature, tradition and history blend into a rich cultural tapestry.Live like a local and see what laid back Penangites love to indulge in - travel in trishaws and shop at the many quaint night markets. Be adventurous and explore!
Though there are definitely more than 10 interesting things to do in Penang, here's our Top 10 picks of “must-dos” when visiting the Pearl of the Orient.

no.1 The Streets of George Town Experience the unique charms of Straits eclectic architecture and sights from our colonial past that has earned George Town a place in Unesco’s heritage site listing. Here, every clanhouse and building represents a page of  Penang’s colourful history and every street corner has a tale to tell. Better still, join the guided walking tours organised by Penang Heritage Trust (from RM50/person) or do with ‘green wheels’ – via a bicycle or trishaw package tour by Metro Bike www.metrobike.com.my (from RM88/person).

no.2 Penang famous hawker fare Penangites love to eat – that is a fact. And as the saying goes, when in Rome do as the Romans do! Penang street food encompasses Chinese, Malay and Indian “fast food” all served in a matter of minutes! Eating by the roadside stalls and coffee shops is an experience second to none as you watch locals of all races indulge in their favourite past time – food!

no.3 Penang Hill At 821m above sea level, Penang Hill visitors will be privy to some of the grandest colonial mansions (which are now restaurants and guests houses) while enjoying the cool, refreshing air and panoramic views of the island. Take a short 30-minute cable car ride up Penang Hill from the funicular station in Air Itam or trek up the hill via the Botanic Gardens – a three-hour hike through lush foliage of the rainforest.

no.4 Places of worship Grand churches, elaborate Buddhist and Indian temples and magnificent mosques are all part and parcel of the local culture. Be it the St George’s Church (built in 1816), Kapitan Keling Mosque, Kek Lok Si Temple, Snake Temple (yes, there are live snakes inside!) or Sri Mahamariamman Temple, the different races often converge at these places of worship to practice their faith and it is indeed, a sight to be hold.

no.5 National Park (Muka Head) While Penang’s National Park in Pantai Acheh may be the smallest in the country, it is by no means less impressive. Eco-attractions like the pristine Pantai Kerachut beach and meromictic lake (a body of sea water and fresh water that do not mix) provide the perfect spot for picnics and fishing, swimming and trekking. Boat rides can also be arranged or those who want to visit the nearby islands. Also, do look out for the old lighthouse which was built in 1883 – it is still operational and visitors are welcome!

no.6 The Weld Quay Clan Jetties The clan jetties perched on the backwaters of George Town are home to five main Chinese clans – Lim, Chew, Tan, Lee and Yeoh. Today, the young ones, who no longer depend on the sea for a living, have moved out of the settlement while their elders continue to enjoy the wooden jetties’ laidback lifestyle. These humble, rickety jetties are a living heritage that serves as a reminder of the island’s stature as an important maritime port and the pioneer Chinese immigrants who came to seek their fortune here more than a century ago.

no.7 Flea markets, pasar malam and modern shopping malls From the Lorong Kulit and Rope Walk flea markets to the Campbell Street, and Little India traditional shopping areas and modern shopping malls like Gurney Plaza and Queensbay (just to name a few), Penang is a shopper’s paradise. Even if shopping is not your thing, do spare a few hours browsing (especially at the local antique shops and handicraft centres) because it’ll be worth your while! Bargaining is a skill that is best honed in Penang where the traders are quite a friendly lot.

no.8 Batu Ferringhi Beach With its sandy shores and vast open sea, Batu Ferringhi offers an amazing respite from the hustle and bustle of town. Check into any one of the resorts that line the stretch and spend your afternoon soaking in the soothing sound of lapping waves and bright sunny rays of this tropical paradise. At night, the popular tourist belt comes to life as traders hawk their wares while eateries bring out their best menus to satiate even the most discerning of palates. The Batu Ferringhi night market offers some eye-catching knick-knacks including wood carvings, silver jewellery, crockery and display items.

no.9 Upper Penang Road and Chulia Street For those who love to drink and party, the Upper Penang Road party hotspot in George Town comes alive when the sun descends on the horizon. Here, you will find pubs, karaoke lounges and clubs with live bands where the drinks keep flowing and the beat keeps thumping! At nearby Chulia Street, backpackers chill and bond in little budget motels, coffee shops and watering holes that serve relatively cheap(er) beer and drinks.

no.10 Butterfly Farm This tropical butterfly farm in Teluk Bahang is so famous that it was visited by former British Prime Minister Tony Blair and his wife when they came to Penang for a private holiday in 2008. A live museum with winged beauties fluttering about as well as a breeding research centre, the farm is an eco-tourism gem indeed.

The Primary Love Needs of Women and Men

  

In the following six sections we will define the twelve kinds of love and in practical terms and reveal their reciprocal nature.

1. She Needs Caring and He Needs Trust

   - When a man shows interest in woman’s feelings, she will feel loved and cared for.  Man has fulfilled her first primary need. Naturally she begins to trust him more. When she trusts, she becomes more open and receptive.

   - When woman shows open and receptive toward a man he feels trusted. To trust a man is to believe that he is doing his best and that he wants the best for his partner. His first primary love need is fulfilled. Automatically he is more caring and attentive to her feelings and needs.

2. She Needs Understanding and He Needs Acceptance

   - When a man listens without judgment but with empathy and relatedness to a woman express her feelings, she feels heard and understood. It will be easier for her to give her man the acceptance he needs later on.

   - When a woman lovingly receives a man without trying to change him, he feels accepted. It affirms that he is favorably received. It does not mean the woman believes that he is perfect but indicates that she is not trying to improve him, that she trusts him to make his own improvements.

3. She Needs Respect and He Needs Appreciation

    - Concrete and physical expressions of respect, like flowers and remembering anniversaries, are essential to fulfill her third primary love. It is easier for her to give her man the appreciation that he deserves.

   - He feels appreciated when a woman acknowledges man’s efforts and behaviour. Appreciation is the natural reaction to being supported. Thus encoureaged him to give more.

4. She Needs Devotion and He Needs Admiration

   - A woman thrives when she feels adored and special. Men makes her feelings and needs are more important than his other interests – like work, study, and recreation.

   - To admire man is to regard him with wonder, delight and pleased approval. A man feels admired when she is happily amazed by his unique characteristics and talents, which may include humor, strength, persistence, integrity, honesty, romance, kindness, love, understanding and other so-called old fashion virtues. When a man feels admired, he feels secure enough to devote himself to his woman and adore her.

  

5. She Needs Validation and He Needs Approval

   - She has the validation from man when he does not object to or argue with a woman’s feelings and wants but instead accepts and confirms their validity. (one can validate her points while having a different point) A man’s validating attitude confirms a woman’s right to feel the way she does.

   - Deep inside, a man wants to be his woman’s hero or knight in shining armor. The signal that he has passed her test is her approval. (giving approval does not always mean agreeing with him)

6. She Needs Reassurance and He Needs Encouragement

   - Man repeatedly shows that he cares, understands, respects, validates and is devoted to his partner shows reassurance to woman.

   - It encourages man to be all that he can be. 

That's all. Hope you guys understand each other more~ :-)

Scoring Points With The Opposite Sex

Ways To Score Points With A Men

Men give points differently from women. Every time a woman appreciate what a man does for her, he feels loved and gives her a point to return. He also will get much of the love he needs. Remember, men primarily need appreciation.

While for a woman, they cannot appreciate the big things a man does for her unless he is also doing a lot of little things. Doing a lot of little things fulfills her primary needs to feel cared for, understood, and respected.

A major source of love for a man is the LOVING REACTION that a woman has to his behaviour. He has a love tank too, but his is not necessarily filled by what she does for him. Instead it is mainly filled by HOW SHE REACTS to him or HOW SHE FEELS about him.

Women are sometimes unaware of when a man really needs love. At such times a woman can score twenty to thirty points. Let’s see…..

What happens	Points he gives her
1. He makes a mistake and she doesn’t say “I told you so” or offer advice.	10-20
2. He disappoints her and she doesn’t punish him.	10-20
3. He gets lost and she sees the good in the situation and says “We would never have seen this beautiful sunset if we had taken the most direct route.”	20-30
4. He gets lost while driving and she doesn’t make a big deal out of it.	10-20
5. He forgets to pick up something and she says “It’s OK. Would you do it next time when we are out?”	10-20
6. He forgets to pick up something again and she says with trusting patience and persistence “It’s OK. Would u still get it?”	20-30
7. When she has hurt him and she understands his hurt, she apologizes and gives him the love he needs.	10-40
8. She asks for his support and he says no and she is not hurt by his rejection but trusts that he would if he could. She doesn’t reject him or disapprove of him.	10-20
9. Another time she asks for his support and he again say no. She doesn’t make him feel wrong but accepts his limitations at that time.	20-30
10. She asks for his support without being demanding when he assumes the score is somewhat even.	1-5
11. She asks for his support without being demanding when she is upset or he knows she has been giving more.	10-30
12. When he withdraws she doesn’t make him feel guilty.	10-20
13. When he comes back from his cave she welcomes him and doesn’t punish him or reject him.	10-20
14. When he apologizes for a mistake and she receives it with loving acceptance and forgiveness. The bigger the mistake he makes the more points he gives.	10-50
15. When he asks her to do something and she says no without giving a list of reasons why she can’t do it.	1-10
16. When he asks her to do something and she says yes and stays in a good mood.	1-10
17. When he wants to make up after a fight and starts doing little things for her and she starts appreciating him again.	10-30
18. She is happy to see him when he gets home.	10-20
19. She feels disapproving and instead of expressing it she goes in another room and privately centers herself and then comes back with a more centered and loving heart.	10-20
20. On special occasions she overlooks his mistakes that might normally upset her.	20-40
21. She really enjoys having sex with him.	10-40
22. He forgets where he put his keys and she doesn’t look at him as though he was irresponsible.	10-20
23. She is tactful or graceful in expressing her dislike or disappointment about a restaurant or movie when on a date.	10-20
24. She doesn’t give advice when he is driving or parking the car and then appreciates him for getting them there.	10-20
25. She asks for his support rather than dwelling on what he has done wrong.	10-20
26. She shares her negative feelings in a centered way without blaming, rejecting, or being disapproving of him.	10-40

Well, women outside there, it might seem bias and unfair that men always win in certain situation right? I took all the content from a book named “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray, Phd.D. Personally, I think certain things above here might not be applicable for certain people. Therefore, you can experiment it yourself to seek for the truth. Good Luck! ^^

Scoring Points With The Opposite Sex

Ways To Score Points With A Women

Most men already know about many of this things but don’t bother to do them because they don’t realize how important the little things to woman.

The way women score points is not just a preference but a true need. Women need many expressions of love in a relationship to feel loved. One or two expressions of love, no matter how important, will not, and cannot, fulfill her.

This can be hard for men to understand. One way to look at it is to imagine that women have a love tank similar to the gas tank on a car. It needs to be filled over and over again. DOING MANY LITTLE THINGS (and scoring many points) is the SECRET for filling a woman’s love tank.

Let us see the little ways a man can keep his partner’s love tank full. ^^

1. Upon returning home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug.

2. Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do (eg. “How did your appointment with the doctor go?”)

3. Practice listening and asking questions.

4. Resist the temptation to solve her problems – emphatize instead.

5. Give her 20 minutes of unsolicited, quality attention (don’t read newspaper or be distracted by anything else during this time)

6. Bring her cut flowers as surprise as well as on special occasions.

7. Plan a date several days in advance, rather than waiting for Friday night and asking her what she wants to do.

8. If she generally makes dinner or if it is her turn and she seems tired or really busy, offer to make dinner.

9. Compliment her on how she looks.

10. Validate her feelings when she is upset.

11. Offer to help her when she is tired.

12. Schedule extra time when travelling so that she does not have to rush.

13. When you are going to be late, call her and let her know.

14. When she asks for support, say yes or no without making her wrong for asking.

15. Whenever her feelings have been hurt, give her some emphaty and tell her “I’m sorry you feel hurt.” Then be silent; let her feel your understanding of her hurt. Don’t offer solutions or explanations why her hurt is not your fault.

16. Whenever you need to pull away, let her know you will be back or that you need some time to think about things.

17. When you have cooled off and you come back, talk about what was bothering you in a respectful, non-blaming way, so she doesn’t imagine the worst.

18. Offer to build a fire in wintertime.

19. When she talks to you, put down the magazine or turn off the TV and give her full attention.

20. If she usually wash the dishes, occasionally offer to wash the dishes, especially if she is tired that day.

21. Notice when she is upset or tired and ask what she has to do. Then offer to help by doing a few of her “to-do” items.

22. Let her know if you are planning to take a nap or leave.

23. Give her four hugs a day.

24. Call her from work to ask how she is or to share something exciting or to tell her “I love you.’

25. Tell her “I love you” a couple times each day.

26. Make a point of cuddling or being affectionate sometimes without being sexual.

27. Be patient when she is sharing. Don’t look at your watch.

28. Don’t flick the remote control to different channels when she is watching with you.

29. Display affection in public.

30. When holding hands, don’t let your hands go limp.

31. Get season tickets for the theatre, symphony, opera, ballet, or some other type of performance she likes.

32. Create occasions when you both can dress up.

33. Be understanding when she is late or decides to change her outfit.

34. Pay more to her than others in public.

35. Make her important than the children. Let the children see her getting your attention first and foremost.

36. Buy her little presents – like a small box of chocolates or perfume.

37. Let her see that you carry a picture of her in your wallet and update it from time to time.

38. Surprise her with a love note or poem.

39. Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of the relationship.

40. Open the door for her.

41. Offer to carry the groceries.

42. Offer to carry heavy boxes for her.

43. On trips, handle the luggage and be responsible for packing it in the car.

44. When she prepares a meal, compliment her.

45. When listening to her talk, use eye contact.

46. Touch her with your hands sometimes when you talk to her.

47. Show interest in what she does during the day, in the books she read and the people she relates to.

48. Ask her how she is feeling.

49. Get ready to go to sleep together and get in bed at the same time.

50. Give her a kiss and say good-bye before you leave.

51. Laugh at her jokes and humor.

52. Verbally say thank you when she does things for you.

53. Let her know that you missed her when you went away. 

Doing little things for a woman is also healing for a man. In fact, those little things will tend to heal his resentments as well as hers. He begins to feel powerful and effective because she's getting the caring she needs. Both are then fulfilled.

Well, that's all for today. Either you believe it or not. It's your right to make your own judgement. Want to know more about how to score a man's point? Stay tuned with me~ ^^

Why Men and Women See Love Differently

In 2005, Dr. Lucy Brown, professor of neuroscience at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York, with one of the world's most prominent biological anthropologists, Helen Fisher of Rutgers University, both separately and together, analyzed the brain scans of over 3,000 "madly-in-love" college students taken while they looked at picture of their lover. 

The result: 

1. Women showed more activity in the 

     * Caudate nucleus (area of the brain associated with memory, emotion & attention)

     * The septum (a.k.a pleasure centre)

     * Posterior parietal cortex (which involved in the production of mental images and memory recall)

2. Men showed more activity in 

     * Visual cortex

     * Visual Processing areas

     * One area responsible for sexual arousal

The second brain scans indicate where love sits in the brain and why men and women think so differently about it. 

As you can see, men have fewer lit-up areas than women, but when those areas viewed in colour, they show men's areas to be more intensively active than women's larger but less active areas. Women not only have more areas being active, those areas are in completely different locations from men's. This evidence shows why men and women have very different views of love relationships.

Another study showed erotic photos to people as their brains were scanned, but Brown and Fisher found none of the "in-love" activity areas shown in the above scans. They found activity in the hypothalamus (controls drives like hunger and thirst), and in the amygdala area (handles arousal). The conclusion is that brains in love and brains in lust don't look much alike because they use different systems. 

To conclude, the science shows entirely different processes are being used to evaluate the opposite sex during early love ----

1. Men use their eyes as the primary tool to evaluate women for sexual potential

2. Women use memory to assess a man's characteristics for potential as a long-term-partner

3. Lust and love have different locations in the brain and are NOT the same thing

Pease Allan & Barbara. (2009). Why Men Want Sex and Women need Love. New York: Broadway Books.